How much sex is too much sex? What to do if your husband or your wife refuses to take a NO for an answer?
Sex is a beautiful thing. But then sometimes, it is causing too much conflict in the home. How do we handle that? There are tons of women out there who feel like their spouse just wants too much sex. It was great in the beginning though when it was just the two of you with minimal responsibilities and lots of free time. But times change. We get busier with many things. In other words, we’re just too tired to have sex as often as we used to.
What is too much sex?
What will you consider too much sex? It actually depends on whom you ask. We’ve clarified the fact that there are really no rules around what is considered too much sex because that solely depends on the couple, their lifestyle and their needs. Let’s deal with some of the issues that arise when couples have this problem.
Not Being Appreciated
When one of you wants sex all the time, it can become overwhelming for your partner who doesn’t want sex as often. Regardless of how much sex they give you, you just demand even more. This can be confusing for the both of you because it is possible that at the beginning of your relationship, you have similar sex drives. But then your partner starts to not want to have sex as often. What your partner does in an attempt to be accommodating is grudgingly accept to increase the number of times you have sex. However, the sex-starved partner still feels unsatisfied and that just leaves his partner to feel like whatever effort she makes, they are not being appreciated. This enters in anger, frustration and resentment from both parties.
Feeling Of Reluctant
It’s hard to feel loved and want to be intimate with someone who is angry with you. The sex-starved partner has to keep in mind though, that the best way to get your spouse not to do something you would really want them to do is to demand angrily. It kills their motivation and gives rise to the feeling of reluctant. Even if they do it, they’re reluctantly doing it.
A Demanding Partner
A partner who asks for too much sex needs to realize that they cannot make demands. They cannot get into a funk when their partner does not want to have sex as much as they do. But there are lots of couples who had a great sex life. As life goes on, things happen and one of them no longer wants sex as much as they used to. It might be the kids, a medical condition or it could just be that the woman no longer feels attractive. If her husband is frustrated by the reduction in the frequency of sex, what he needs to do is to learn how to stop making demands.
It is not the end of the world if your spouse doesn’t want to have sex sometimes. Just learn how not to make demands but to make requests. A request means the other person can deny what you have asked for without having to pay some penalty such as silent treatment or revenge.
What if your spouse refuses to take no for an answer?
Let your spouse know that they’re well on their way to having you never say yes to anything they want anymore. It’s a way to jar them to listen and understand that constantly demanding things of you is not working. Communication is very important. If you love each other and are effective in the way you communicate, this helps deal a lot with this situation effectively.
How do you avoid a sex-starved marriage?
If it arises, prepare yourself by working on open and effective communication with your spouse. It will go a long way in helping you develop a sexual relationship that you are both happy with for the lifetime of your marriage.